Friday, May 20, 2011
But is it possible that those characteristics may be holding you back?
Few of us have ever had a boss who complained that we were too nice, yet, being too nice may actually hurt your career.
I remember where I was when I read Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office by Lois Frankel. The book was so engaging that I couldn’t put it down. It was so enlightening that I have returned to it over time to remind myself that as women, we tend to fall into roles as support players. It’s one of a few books that I recommend all women in business read.
Now, Lois Frankel has teamed up with Carol Frohlinger to author Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It: 99 Ways to Win the Respect You Deserve, the Success You've Earned, and the Life You Want.
One of those ways is tactic #88: Send Guilt on a Trip
Citing a study published in the Spanish Journal of Psychology, Frankel and Frohlinger note that women are more likely to feel guilty because they are socialized to be considerate of the needs and feelings of others. According to the book, “The problem is, guilt is one of the least productive emotions out there, and often it holds us back from going after the things we really want.”
Or, consider tactic #4: Examine Your Choices
“Nice girls don’t proactively make choices for themselves, because they are unduly influenced by the choices that others have made for them,” write Frankel and Frohlinger.
Think about it. How often do you put your own needs first?
Do you want to find out if you’re too nice? This self-assessment at the Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It website is designed to help you identify the behaviors that may be holding you back from getting the things you most want in life.